Charity in practice

I’m studying charity to try to figure out how to intentionally turn my feelings around regarding Laura. “Love your enemies” might at first seem like a place to start but that’s my conundrum. She isn’t my enemy and I don’t think of her as such but that doesn’t change the fact that I am somewhere between ambivalent and guarded in my feelings toward her.

I realize that a big part of the issue is that my emotional temperature changes slowly. It doesn’t change much with any given hit but regular and sustained his lower the temperature eventually and it takes a sustained effort over time to begin to raise the temperature again. I’m fairly confident that men tend to raise and lower their emotional temperature more slowly than women tend to which contributes to the perception that women are fickle.