Laura seems set tonight on making the stupidest possible choice she can. For years I have realized that she could up and decide to end our marriage and I knew that doing so would be the worst choice she could make for the children and frankly for her as well. I don’t know how firmly she is set on this idea but she declared tonight that she would leave with half of the kids if I ever grabbed any of the kids again (because I had grabbed Isaac when he threw one of her nice pillows in the kitchen and knocked one of her nice cups, which was full of water, onto the tile). The funny thing was that when I told her that I would avoid grabbing anyone regardless of the potential for chaos that might follow she first accepted that and then declared that was another reason to just end the marriage.
She indicated that she doesn’t expect to get married again (which is wise as she doesn’t truly want to be with another person – she would just be frustrated with whatever their shortcomings were) and she thought I might go find someone better suited for me. Personally I think I would be too busy to think about getting married again – especially if I don’t have 8 kids to take care of. With 8 I would have to get married and might very well make a hasty choice. With 4 I could focus on my kids (including the 4 with her because I’m not letting any of my kids go) but not feel pressured to find a wife to stay at home with my kids.
Truthfully I really hope she gets past this harebrained idea and realizes that staying together is the most healthy option for everyone involved but I’m not naive enough to discount the possibility that she decides to follow through with the threat despite all it’s drawbacks.
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