This morning I asked Laura if we could talk privately. She assumed that I would be petitioning for sex and based on her response I began to feel that I might be making headway against the idea of divorce. Her response was that she feels that starting to have sex again just now might subtly distinctiveize me from the good changes I have been making which she recognizes as genuine. Considering that we have been snuggling every night this week – I’d say that even without sex we are clearly making progress in her comfort with intimacy.
The best part of it all was that the reason I wanted to talk to her was because I wanted to share what I had learned from Day 15 of the Love Dare – I realized that my exasperated response to so many of her wants and needs over there years was evident to the kids and that the tone of our house would change greatly if I let go of my exasperation and met those wants and needs with more kindness – it would go a long way to putting her back in the honored place in my affection to which my wife is unequivocally entitled.
Another happy development is that Laura said as we were talking later that she is starting to think that leaving the church won’t be necessary for her to be happy.
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