I’m tardy in recording this, just like Isaac’s hospital visit. This took place last week.
On July 5th Ezra got mad at 9:30pm because I took the nerf gun he kept pointing at Noah. In response he escaped the house a few minutes later (just fast enough to get out of my sight) after declaring that I’d be hearing from the police after a while—clearly he expected that they would eventually pick him up and I would have to deal with them.
Instead, after I had driven around the area roads looking for him I called 911 to alert them that he had left. I don’t know how much effort they put into looking for him although I know they put in some effort. The end result was that Ezra finally showed up at home at 1:30am. I then called 911 again to inform them that he had returned. I then stayed up until 2:30 talking to Michael (Alyssa). Let’s just say that I was very tired at work for the next two days.
Also (unrelated to Ezra) I spent a lot of time last week trying to sort out what to do with Isaac. We seriously considered a residential treatment facility but finally decided, mere hours before Ezra ran off, to have him come home instead and we picked him up the afternoon after Ezra’s escapade.
Annoyingly, Isaac declared tonight that he had been—and intends to continue—manipulating us any way he can to get what he wants. He said, almost in these words, that he makes any promise necessary to get what he wants (like coming home rather than going to a residential facility) with no intent to keep any promise he has made if he can get away with doing something else. He literally said that if we try to trust him we’re idiots who don’t deserve to live. (When bundled with his long demonstrated view that if we don’t implicitly trust him and do what he wants we’re just control freaks, this makes for quite the catch-22—or it would if his opinion of us had any value.)
The direct example of his “promise whatever it takes to get my way but break the promises as soon as I can get away with it” being that we chose to bring him home based on his citation that he would be out of the house at the Alliance group program 5 days a week. On the car ride home he was already asking to skip the next week of Alliance (we said no). Today he has declared that he won’t go to Alliance for the rest of this week—that would be skipping 3 of the first 6 days. (I guess he’ll relent or discover how well he likes life without internet.)
I’m now solidly determined that he will go to a facility at the first instance, no matter how small, of threatening or attempting to harm himself or anyone else.
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