- Talk with Laura
- It was interesting to hear Laura say she thought I was doing pretty good on my own.
- She acknowledges that of the two of us I’m the only one with a long-term vision.
- She doesn’t have any apparent disagreements with whatever she understands of my vision. (Gauging what another person understands is always challenging and uncertain.)
- I feel good about how I articulated my desire for her to also have a long-term vision.
- I don’t think I was sharp, accusatory, or depressing when I articulated the thought that without vision she was drifting towards the very future she says she doesn’t want—sitting around basically useless with failing health.
- It was interesting to pick up how strongly she expects that she will be kept busy by grandkids by the time the kids are out of the house and that it is a resigned expectation more than a joyful one.
- The benchmark of “if something is sustaining and nourishing to you, you will be able to recognize that by the fact that you enjoy telling others about it” feels true.
- I think that might be valuable for the kids (and for us to pay attention and learn about their interests).
- Laura later made the comment that her mom never did anything with them as kids.
- I think it’s worth exploring that statement. Maybe she can learn something, either positive or negative, from how she remembers her mom as she grew up.
Action Items
- Listen to what each of the kids talk about and take notes.
- Talk to Laura about listening to what each of the kids talk about.
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