“I only have to report to the Savior on how I did as your parent – not in comparison to other children and their parents.”
Use your backbone as a parent.
Don’t change the rules based on your mood – or anything else.
3 purposes of parenting
- health and safety of the children
- teach values
- help children become independent
Eagles pull the fluff out of the nest as their chicks grow until the chicks choose to leave.
Nurture is “I love you.” Training is preparation for the future. Too much nurture teaches:
- Your not {fill in the blank} enough.
- I don’t trust you to do it.
- You don’t do it well enough
- Only women do that sort of thing (or “Only men do that type of work”)
How to train:
- Introduce far in advance – guage the reaction
- Specify the training period – be non-judgemental
- Practice and check up
- Once the skill is mastered turn it over to them. Once they can do it don’t do it for them (except for purposes of nurture)