I woke up this morning to find an email from Mom asking if we wanted to come to Thanksgiving dinner. I responded that this year would not work out for us (it’s the Gibbons’ year). Mom’s email was fine but she actually asked in a way that essentially said less about Thanksgiving and more about how she thinks our relationship is pretty empty – which it is. Laura and I talked about it and finally decided how to proactively help build the family relationships – we’re going to invite the family to our house each month for some small get-together. Later Mom responded that it was better that we weren’t going to make it since that would just be more stressful. Her first email sounded like they were in the planning stages, her second as if the whole thing had already been pre-arranged. Let’s just say that I was not very gracious in my response. Bill called later – not knowing that Mom had contacted me – and asked about Thanksgiving. He informed me that Ken was even coming. I then talked to Laura and we decided to go since the whole family would be there. I emailed Mom to tell her that we had decided to come. When she finally responded hours later she was fairly catty. It’s very funny to read her claims that there’s no way to communicate with me considering that she is always the one who starts getting negative even when I am agreeing with her. And we wonder why I don’t go out of my way to contact her.
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