Tag: Divorce
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Breakthrough
I feel confident that divorce is completely off the table with Laura. I said on the 13th that it seemed to be going that direction but now 12 days later the conversation that Laura and I had as she drove me home from the train station put my recent uncertainty to rest. Laura had been…
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Laura’s half
I realized today that no matter how much apologizing I do (and I’m getting progressively better at doing it) Laura will not feel safe until she does her part in choosing to believe in my good faith efforts – past and present. She acknowledged my current and recently past efforts but efforts more than 2…
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Probably winning
This morning I asked Laura if we could talk privately. She assumed that I would be petitioning for sex and based on her response I began to feel that I might be making headway against the idea of divorce. Her response was that she feels that starting to have sex again just now might subtly…
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Sleeping together
Last night Laura actually invited me to snuggle with her when we went to bed. That hasn’t happened since before she started talking about divorce and it seems like a very good sign that she’s feeling that divorce isn’t the route forward. Today we were favored when we checked into the hotel in Cedar City…
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A breakthrough
While doing my first day of the Love Dare I had a significant insight. I had taken the assessment and found that I scored a 0 on affirmation so I’m starting with the days related to affirmation. The first is day 7 and as I was writing the things I appreciate about Laura I realized…
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Small means
Because the moving of the needles on the Liahona were small miracles the people forgot to think of them as miracles do that they stopped exercising faith to the point that the needles stopped working and they were driven back in their journey. That’s precisely where Laura is. She doesn’t see the hand of the…
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Marriage counseling
Laura and I went to our first session of marriage counseling this afternoon. It was interesting to have a name applied to our communication pattern (pursue and withdraw) but even more interesting to listen to Laura’s description of our marriage – which showed no reason why anyone should want to end such a marriage. Sure…
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Ready to be stupid
Laura seems set tonight on making the stupidest possible choice she can. For years I have realized that she could up and decide to end our marriage and I knew that doing so would be the worst choice she could make for the children and frankly for her as well. I don’t know how firmly…
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The Problem of Anger
It is when we become angry that we get into trouble. There were moments of offense followed by years of regret. 2/3 of those who might have celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary since 2000 never reached that milestone because of divorce, separation, or widowhood. – clipped from a newspaper. Widowhood is beyond the control of…