David Journal

Tag: Laura

  • Seek not to counsel the Lord

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    I’m struggling with the proper relationship between husband and wife. The wife is supposed to hearken to the counsel of her husband as her husband hearkens to the counsel of the father. In bringing that up I don’t wish to sound like I want subservience but I do believe that men and women have different…

  • Laura moved out again

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    I was hurting when Laura moved into her own room on October 4th but over time I decided that I wasn’t content to just let things play out. After 13 days we had begun to warm up again and Saturday night she moved back into the bedroom. Then as we talked about the experience this…

  • Laura moved into her own room

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    Today Laura moved out of the bedroom. I guess she decided to quit pretending that we were more than just legally married anymore. Frankly, she has criticized and belittled me enough that I don’t care. She has completely dropped everything in my lap for two years and still she feels she has the right to…

  • Not safe

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    I’m sure I surprise Laura when she’s feeling good (and usually frisky) and I am disconnected/uninterested. It’s probably equally surprising when I respond positively to the invitation to drive in to work with her. She never knows what to expect from me, not because I’m totally unpredictable but because she is completely clueless about how…

  • Turning over a new leaf

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    Not for the first time I have decided to change the pattern of behavior in our house. I’ve repeatedly proven that talking about how things need to change has little to no effect. My tactic now is to change my behavior and allow the chips to fall. More than any previous attempt I am trying…

  • Patching things up

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    Laura invited me to come out and talk on the trampoline near midnight last night. I didn’t think we were likely to make much progress but I was willing to give it a shot. I’m not sure Laura had very high hopes either. She opened by complaining to me about how unreasonable it is of…

  • Recording Laura in real time

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    I have decided that I need to keep a record of the ways that Laura unsecured herself and me as I noticed it happening. The purpose here isn’t to castigate her but rather to ensure that I have a record of events as needed for clarity rather than relying on fuzzy memories without details. I…

  • What do I want Laura to do?

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    I would like Laura to observe Noelle (and Lisi when she’s here) in the way she reinforces me to the children. She could equally observe how I support and don’t interfere with what Noelle does with the kids. I think Noelle is a great target for observation because her natural inclinations are decidedly different than…

  • How Laura seems to see me

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    Based on how Laura treats me and talks to/about me she sees me as a very useful but thick-headed employee. She likes that I do a pretty good job of keeping the house and family from absolutely collapsing but my priorities are weak and my ambition stops at theory. Unfortunately I’m not interested in making…

  • Atrophy of purpose

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    Based upon Laura’s question last night – “what’s my purpose here?” – I feel confident that it’s time for her to shoulder some defined responsibilities again. She is now suffering from an atrophy of a sense of purpose. She’s been shoveling off virtually all the responsibilities in her role as a mother to unqualified twenty-somethings…